Arctic Warfare

Had a long discussion with Ken Toh online. Was thinking about relationships in general for a long time. My observation is that in order to form friends, one must be acquainted to the person for some time. During Sec 3 and JC1, I daren't talk to people. Maybe I was an introvert by nature. Preferred to hear my classmates' voices. It took me a year to get used to their presence. Sadly, we only have less than 3 months left to enjoy our JC life. Sometimes I wish that the JC syllabus could extend for 1 more year. (by the way, Audry kindly told me that our syllabus was meant to stretch for 3 years not 2, however due to the overemphasis of the rat race in life by our government...). Yet, 天下无不散之筵席. Inevitably, friendships will weaken over time, but never broken.

Last time, there was a talk that had a permanent impression on me. About how guys should uphold the Rafflesian Principle of Honour. Forgot who the speaker was. But he passionately spoke about how young adults like us in the future should apply it in all relationships. Was thought provoking enough to stir a response in me. Relationships, such a touchy issue at times. Applying what remnants of the speech remain in me, here are some of my personal views (feel free to disagree, after all everyone is unique):

• Though the rest of the animal kingdom practises polygamy, I disagree that we should follow the rest of our animal counterparts. Somehow, the world is disillusioned with the notion of "death till us part", cynical to all forms of relationships. Firstly, I feel that the concept is wrong. I do not believe in death till us part (gasp). No I am not going back on my stand. Because death itself does not separate love. The soul and spirit still live on. Though the person may be gone, his or her spirit and soul still persist, and one can draw comfort from the fact that no matter how faded the memories, it will always be there to console us. Unless of course you do not believe in such stuffs.
  
• Marriage is a covenant. Not a social contract. Neither is it a promise. Somehow, many people tend to view it as a legal agreement. What is a covenant, one may ask? Maybe explaining the process might make things simpler. Last time, when a tribal leader needs protection, one would offer to form a covenant with his ally. Firstly, he will sacrifice his lambs and goats and slice them into half. Sounds gory, but it was how it was done. Then he will scatter each half at one side to form a passageway between. His ally will also do the same. Then both will start at one end of the blood-stained passage and walk to the other side. This means that whatever you own is mine, and vice versa. If anyone betrays the covenant, may he end up like those animals slain in half.It's serious enough to involve the shedding of blood. Similarly marriage can be applied in that sense.
  
• There is no "the one girl/guy" for any person, though I hate to admit it. Each person has many choices, and when we marry, we feel (and think, and hope, you get the meaning) that we have made the best choice. Here's a thought: What happens if your "one" and only "one" dies? Are you gonna remarry? If you do so, won't you be stealing other people's "ones"?